On Sex and Gender

Sex - Biological and physiological characteristics that define men and women.  Genitals etc.

Gender - Socially constructed roles and behaviors that society considers appropriate for men and women.  Masculine and feminine characteristics.

Just like Pink Think taught females how to behave and embody the essence of femininity, Dink Think teaches males how to embody the essence of masculinity.

What is Dink Think?
I don't know if this term has been coined, and it's ridiculously derogatory.  It's just as offensive as pink think.  I'm using it to describe the raising of males to believe that their sex dictates the way that they should behave in order to be successful men.

Dink Think teaches males that they are suppose to be the sole provider of the nuclear family.
They should drive a fast and powerful sports car, and this is one of the necessities in attracting a mate.
They are the ones that propose marriage and must purchase a ring to prove their dedication to their beloved, they should not expect the same thing in return.
They will not have a primary role in the planning of their wedding, and if they express interest in it, they are most likely homosexual or bisexual.
They are suppose to work long hours and will have a secondary role in the raising of their children.  They will most likely become dissatisfied with their marital life and will likely have an affair to pacify their raging sex drive.
They are constantly ready for sex and will be considered less virile if they don't want it.
They are not allowed to cry or show emotion because for men this is a sign of weakness.
They are used to violent behavior and have probably been in a few fights in their life.
They are the perpetrators of domestic violence and not the victims, in fact, if they 'pretend' to be the victims of domestic violence, they are probably homosexual or at least bisexual.  They are most likely pussies and will be looked down upon if they admit that being hit or abused actually bothers them.

Of course I am generalizing, and this conversation of Pink Think and Dink Think do not address the fact that many people are not in heteronormative relationships.  But the basics of what I am trying to suggest, are that men and women are often raised to believe that because of their anatomy, they need to behave in a certain way.  When anatomy dictates choice, we have a problem.

500 Followers in One Week

Yeah, I know it's twitter, and getting 500 followers seems like no big deal, but it's a start.

The point of this blog and the twitter account are to raise awareness about the issue of violence against men.  If people are talking about it, they are starting to question what they see and whether or not they are contributing to the perpetuation of gender bias regarding the issue of abuse.

Consider thinking about whether or not you might react similarly to seeing a man get hit as you would if you saw a woman get hit.

Sexism shows up in many places, and this is one of them.

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Helping the abuser
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If He Hits Her He's an Abuser, If She Hits Him He's a Jerk

Either way, it's the man's fault.

Time to expose this sexism for what it is.  Abuse is abuse.

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To male victims of violence, it's no surprise.


This study suggests that the rate of adult female-to-adult male intimate violence was the same as the rate of male-to-female violence.

The Missing Persons of Domestic Violence: Male Victims

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I'm on a mission to create awareness about the issue of violence towards men.  Why you ask?  Why not raise awareness about violence towards women or children?  Why not just write about violence towards everyone?

Make no mistake, I do not believe anyone should ever be hit a man, woman, or child.  I've chosen to focus on violence towards men in hopes that it will unite all movements advocating for the end of all physical abuse. 


It has been my experience that when men are the victims of abuse they tend to be given less sympathy.  If they dare to come forward with there stories they are looked at as weak or abnormal.  I believe this is because both men and women continue to be raised to believe that men should be tough and should not show weakness or emotion.  Because men get less sympathy, abuse towards them goes unrecognized and therefore continues.  Not only this, but because men are raised not to show emotion, it is often the case that they do not report having been abused. 

The media further perpetuates this in that many scenes of men being abused are taken lightly or are seen as comical.  Further, often when men are the victims of violence in television or film, they tend to be portrayed as having deserved it.

Let's get real, violence is never the answer.

Men and women must stand up to all forms of abuse. 

100 followers in One Day

Thank you so much to everyone that supported donthitmen on it's first day on Twitter.  It's my personal goal to try for 500 by the new year.

Today I sent messages, via twitter, to several celebrities that starred in roles that encouraged violence against men.  I'll keep you posted about their responses to my messages.  The scenes that were depicted glamorized the hitting of men.  None of the scenes involved the women acting in self defense, and all were in public.  Consider the situation in reverse.  If you saw a man slap a woman across the face in public, would you just stand by and watch?

Thank you again for your support in raising awareness about this issue.